My first holiday in China ended in a quite miserable way because of some unluck that characterize me generally and an unfortunate mistake I made packing my luggage (I should have known better.. I am so angry with myself).
But it would not be fair to judge this experience by this fact. Never be fast in judgements.. even if I forget that from time to time
I admit that the holiday had also started in a bit unexpected way: I arrived in WenZhou, 温州, in the night of friday 16th february and met my pen-friend, TingTing, 婷婷, only on saturday 17th, the actual Chinese New Year Eve. After having lunch with her family she told me that there were too many relatives for the dinner in the evening with the grandmother, and it was better if I was not joining them.. That was quite a disappointement for me, having hoped to spend that special Chinese celebration in a traditional way.. and furthermore, having been only few hours in WenZhou I could not really re-organize myself for doing something exciting for that evening..
So I spent the evening in the hotel assisting to the amazing fireworks show from the street in that area. Thinking back, if only I had planned to be in WenZhou a bit earlier, I would have had the time to organize something different in the same situation.. A bit of unluck at the beginning of the holidays too.. Now I have a little better understanding of family traditions in China, especially respect to foreigners, but still I refer to “experts” for better insight in Chinese life! That’s why I cannot blame them for not having me that night..
The meaning of this holiday has been, since the beginning, to try to experience something different from a common tourist trip: I did depend mostly on TingTing and let her deciding everything.. my young boss!
I have realized also that, in a place where not so many people could speak English and where there were also not so many tourist (3 Western faces seen in 10 days, airport in WenZhou included!), I am not anymore the explorer kind of tourist (if I had ever been).. or better, I did not feel much interest in going out alone and walk around and discover new things all by myself.. It might be the age (yup, I’m not a teenager anymore, even if the looks might deceive sometimes
) or just a shift of interests.. even if it does not mean that I will not travel unless I find a companion! Nah.. too difficult! And there are still too many places I want to visit.. I have just to find friends there!
Back to WenZhou now!
Right before receiving the un-expected news about New Year Eve, I had a wonderful lunch with TingTing father and mother, everything magistrally prepared by her (who works in a restaurant, unfortunately closed until after I left! But that I got a chance to visit..). I still do not know or remember the name of most of the things I have been eating, but I liked, loved everything.. ok.. mostly!
And I had other chances during those days to eat a lot of really good Chinese food, with a very special evening that had been “my Chinese New Year celebration”, a dinner offered by one of Ting Ting’s “brothers” (male cousins).. A room full of people , sharing a moment of joy. All Ting Ting’s relatives, that treated me as one of them.. ok, one that could not really understand many chinese words..
I have anyway improved my knowledge of WenZhou the dialect: “hai yu“, that means to drink the full glass when you toast and I learnt also the opposite way, “fu hai yu” for drinking slower (and there was something like “me i, me i” for having the glass only half filled with beer and not full!!).. Anyway the Norwegian drinking “culture” has been usefull!
That evening had been very special: those people that I had never met before and maybe won’t meet again, made me feeling like a very special guest.. i wonder if one day I will be able to “pay back” TingTing for this..
But before that special evening, I had another wonderful evening together with TingTing and Gao JinYing, 金影, her younger cousin: they took me to JiangXin Islet Park, 江心岛, a small island located in front of WenZhou downtown area, where monks live. Extremely beautiful in the evening, with the temples and the different part of the park illuminated and, during the Spring Festival, the fireworks form the main city lighting up the sky..
A few days before I had been to a local park in WenZhou, Ma An Chi park ,马鞍池公园, where we met with another TingTing’s sister (female cousin), her little son (full of energy and probably a bit surprised by my face!), TingTing’s mother, and grandfather and grandmother of the kid.. a really family day, a special family day, thanks to a very nice weather, that brought out to that park many families with small kids.. all having fun.. And that day I felt like a part of the family.. maybe a part living far away and visiting only for the Spring festival, but still not an alien! ;-P Ant the park was so much alive, with a great mix of children and elders..
A couple of evenings TingTing walked around with me and took me to some shops for buying local product (even if WenZhou is known for shoes.. I was more interested in Chinese food!!) and it was extremely funny for TingTing to see what for me was “special Chinese food” I wanted to bring back to Norway..
The last day, the weather was really bad.. raining without stop.. normal Stavanger weather in other words 
TingTing could anyway spend afternoon and evening with me and we decided to walk to the mother’s restaurant so I could see it.. and on the way we visited also the old high school where she went few years ago. Unfortunately all the rain we got made TingTing sick for a few days after I left and she went back to work..
But that evening we went to eat to a not very Chinese restaurant: I wanted to treat her with dinner and I let her decide, and she took me to eat (with fork and knife!!) a very good steak!!
I was sad though because I had really a great time in China thanks to TingTing.. so when I followed her home (no, not to the door.. the family would have not liked that
) I felt a heavy weight on me.. That was the time to say goodbye.. but I did not want.. A last hug to this beautiful young girl that had been so sweet with me, and I will never forget.. but in that hug I tried to put my thanks to all her relatives, family members and friends that made this holiday unforgettable!
I can really say: I miss you TingTing – I miss you China!!!
我想念你婷婷, 我想念你 中国
