Sexy Qixi Chinese S. Valentine perfect present

1 08 2014

Today it is Qixi festival, the equivalent of Chinese S. Valentine and a fruit vendor got out with a brilliant funny sexy idea:

sexy Valentine

They call them “Ripe Fruit” (蜜桃成熟時) and they have changed the life of the guy that made them, and patented them!





Curiosity and privacy

26 08 2011

These post belongs to the new category, called Chinese myths, where I will comment on some stuff that for us, Western people, are a typical expected trademark for Asians. Now, this is only from my own limited personal experience!!! Very possible I will change my mind with after more time here, and I will of course appreciate comments from real Chinese or laowais that have lived in China longer than me!!

Knowing that China is one of the last existing communist states, it is common to extend the thought of lack of private property to the lack of privacy. OK, nowadays it is a little too obsolete saying that there is not private property in China: the process of privatization started in late 70s and it’s continuing on its road, made of experience and mistakes, as any development requires!

On the other hand, personal privacy in general is a concept a little unknown for Chinese people even if you would read several do’s/dont’s in your Chinese grammar about how to respect privacy in general. Given the amount of people that in this industrialization and development phase push toward the cities leaving behind the huge open spaces of the countryside, the personal space decreased drastically! Historically Chinese have always been collective society looking for group affiliation. Read the rest of this entry »





Chinese violence

4 08 2011

These post belongs to the new category, called Chinese myths, where I will comment on some stuff that for us, Western people, are a typical expected trademark for Asians. Now, this is only from my own limited personal experience!!! Very possible I will change my mind with after more time here, and I will of course appreciate comments from real Chinese or laowais that have lived in China longer than me!!

In Western country we imagine Asian people living by Buddhist “code” or Zen, all in peace with themselves, trying to accept the good or bad of life in a very balanced way. OK, this, once written, is clearly not the general idea of all big Asian cities (Hong Kong is quite famous for underground criminality). Contributing to this idea it is probably also the Chinese peaceful rise concept, true or not as it could be!

As often, in Western countries we do not have such a deep understanding of what it is going on in Eastern ones!

I was just watching the video no repubblica.it about the unfortunate choice of a Chinese Milan supporter to go to Inter training wearing a red-black jersey. First he was surrounded by Inter supporters, insulted, and then “of course” attacked (so common in European fields).

The couple of guards there do not do anything to prevent the attack since they are clearly outnumbered by the people that want just to fight. And the people that want to take pictures!

The comment of the Italian journalist is wondering if this is only too much Inter-Milan agonistic feelings or trying to copy the bad European habits.

Unfortunately I must say that this has nothing to do with anything like that: Chinese people have a quite dangerous tendency to explode in extremely violent behaviors. I have read and seen this, luckily very seldom in live fashion and never happened to me yet.

Last Saturday I was in a club, Mei Gao Mei, I used to go quite often, for dancing and having a good time with 潘蕾 after a nice dinner at Perfetto, where we could enjoy the water polo men tournament final for 14th FINA World Aquatics Championships – Shanghai 2011. We had good spirit, her for the food, me for the food and the gold medal to Italy!

Once in a club I saw a few foreigners I knew and just exchanged hellos, but then 潘蕾 and I stayed mainly to ourselves. The club was packed as usual. People dancing, having fun. Around 1am we decided to go back home and right out of the music area I see 2 of my foreigner friends standing there, surrounded by several other people talking to them, one of the laowai holding his head and the other one without t-shirt, with a nasty cut over one eye and a trail of blood from the head to the torso.. I was shocked!

I must say that violence always leave me extremely bad feelings in my stomach. Not the sight of blood, no problem with that, but just I do not like fights or violence in itself: I have never been in a fight, but I have been a few times trying to divide fighters, until once I got a punch on my head for the “service” (that time, in Norway, ended funny: both fighters stop and both offered me a beer!).

Anyway, talking with my friends, that were waiting for the police, it seemed they were blindly attacked when strolling around the club, and the attackers used bottles or glasses (the nasty cut seemed a bottle hit result). My friends never really saw the attackers, one even was kicked when on the ground.

The thing is scary because when it happens in a dark club full of Chinese people that look more or less the same, it becomes impossible for us to point fingers. Also the police when arrived was not that interested or committed to find the attackers. They just sent my friends to the hospital and just talked with the Chinese girlfriend of one of them for some time, moving actually out of the club as soon as possible.. to not disturb the people in the club? Not surprisingly nothing came out of that, and the police managed to discourage my friends to file a complain.

Not the first time I hear about fights against foreigners, and usually the best is not fighting back for an easy mathematical reason: any way you turn it, even if we are no the right side, we will always be outnumbered, and since for a Chinese is not acceptable to lose face, how could you think he would take losing a fight against a laowai? And his friends? And other Chinese just passing by?

Some time ago colleagues showed me a video of a fight that took place in a KTV in 郴州 (Chēnzhōu, Hunan province) and the images of violence are scary! A fight stating for some reasons unknown, but probably related to alcohol and women (not so much different from Europe) takes a completely different turn when the “security guards” of the place arrive armed with steel pipes and keep on inflicting damage on people laying helpless on the floor. Ok, the fact is borderline crazy and the whole thing was investigated by the police, after several people were seriously injured.

Not long after I had just arrived in Hefei I read a blog of some English teacher over here that also wrote about a sudden fight for apparently no reasons. This time the foreigners were only spectators.

I have no complains and nothing bad has happened to me so far, and I also I know that in this kind of situations assuming either the turtle position on the floor and caring later about the amount of spit there or just put on wings and fly away might be the best solutions!

Better a live rabbit than a dead lion!! ;-) (I don’t like the more used version of this saying, with dog or rat instead of rabbit..)





Humbleness & beauty

23 04 2011

These post belongs to the new category, called Chinese myths, where I will comment on some stuff that for us, Western people, are a typical expected trademark for Asians. Now, this is only from my own limited personal experience!!! Very possible I will change my mind with after more time here, and I will of course appreciate comments from real Chinese or laowais that have lived in China longer than me!!

Everybody knows that Asian people are extremely humble. You can read that in every language book and you experience that when you meet people over here. So it is generally true: when I praise a Chinese colleague for some good achievements they always tend to lower their contribution or their work. You probably would rarely hear Chinese or Japanese people greatly complimenting themselves.

Of course sometimes this excessive humility is just a way to get praises, lowering oneself more than actually reality shows. But this is not uncommon in Western countries as well!

The exception are Asian girls!! When they get to know you a bit better and they refer to themselves, their beauty especially, nothing is humble anymore!!

At the beginning, when they have just met you, they are like the rest of the Chinese: extremely humble about everything. It can be their own skills, appearence, results, achievements, goals, etc. It does not matter: they are just average, so-so, not special. Typical answers!

But then, if you start getting closer, and not necessary boyfriend kind of close, just more as a normal friend, many things change!! They are always beautiful, their girlfriends are all gorgeous, their style is unique and their skills with no equals! And if you get bf-close, be aware that underestimating or under-praise your Asian girlfriend is a capital sin!! :-)

It is not so uncommon in Western countries too, but in Asia, from my limited experience, I admit it is very uncommon to meet an Asian girl possessing some kind of objectivity.. They are more Aristotelian, and of course they are the center of the universe :-)

On the other hand, I admit that sometimes it is worth to evolve around some of these centers ;-) and they are not always wrong, when addressing themselves or their girlfriends :-)





Physical contact

29 07 2010

These post belongs to the new category, called Chinese myths, where I will comment on some stuff that for us, Western people, are a typical expected trademark for Asians. Now, this is only from my own limited personal experience!!! Very possible I will change my mind with after more time here, and I will of course appreciate comments from real Chinese or laowais that have lived in China longer than me!!

How many times you have heard or been told to avoid physical contact with Asian people? They are not Western, they do not cope well with had shakes, too familiar touching behaviours even with people you have been knowing for some time, or things like that.

After these first months in China I have actually been surprised to see that the physical contact among Chinese people is something completely different from our Western idea: especially among males, they have much more contact than, say, Norwegians! It is very common to see at work, for example in the laboratory, or even around in the streets, boys or man that hug each other, or put an arm over the shoulders of a colleague when talking, or when working closely. Same thing among girls, and a few times girls lay closely on men at work, with no other meaning than just friendship or pure working collaboration.

I mean, Norwegian are usually an extremely homophobic kind of people. Rarely you see two men in physical contact, except for homosexual relationships! Italians, Spanish, French, for us latin people many things are normal among friends. I must say that many of my Norwegian friends changed and accepted our ways, but I am pretty sure it was quite awkward at the beginning to accept a hug from another man (no bottom squeeze, unless they are very hot friends! Kidding!! ;-) ). But I would not push the cheek kiss among men to Norwegians (except a couple of really good friends that I know for a very long time and have been immersed in South European culture for even longer time!)..

Friendly kisses are still tabu among the Chinese I saw, but when you see three adult men sharing a motorbike seat, squeezed together, you realize they are not homophobic!

FUNNY THING OF THE DAY – Once, when working in clean room (NASA, not my work!!), where all the people look about the same (and I got some colleagues as tall as me if not more and a few also as big as me!), a guy there put his arm around my shoulders in one of these familiar and kind gestures.. when I turned and he realized it was the laowai, not a Chinese colleague, he first jumped for the surprise and then apologized at once retreating immediately his arm!! :-) I had no idea how to explain him there was no problem!





Bicycle misconception

23 06 2010

I am starting a new category, called Chinese myths, where I will comment on some stuff that for us, Western people, are a typical expected trademark for Asians. Now, this is only from my own limited personal experience!!! Very possible I will change my mind with after more time here, and I will of course appreciate comments from real Chinese or laowais that have lived in China longer than me!!

When I wait for the company bus in the morning, standing in front of the main entrance of the block of buildings where my apartment is located, I watch the street and mentally count the bicycles. They are not that many! I think China is the country with the absolute higher number of bicycles only because its huge population. From my little experience, I think in Japan there are much more bicycles relative to the population (I’m sure there are statistics on Wikipedia, but ignorance is ok.. for this!). On a second thought (and few minutes “cazzeggio” – procrastination) I google it, and the Netherlands have the highest amount of bike per capita in the world.  Not surprised!  

Alternative taxiOf course the story is completely different if we talk about 2 wheeled vehicles in general, not bikes only, but motorbikes and, even better, e-bikes, electrical bikes. The majority of the traffic, except for buses, is composed by bikes. E-bikes, in particular, occupy a leading position among the 2-wheeled vehicles. They could contribute to bring a bit more “green” in China, but of course most of the trucks and other commercial vehicles are so old and polluting that the e-bikes are green only for the owners, who save fuel money :-) Quite common also to see 3 people on the same bike (as I experienced myself), sometimes even 4 people (a couple of kids, maybe even a pet). Or three boys together on the way to work, this is also common!

You can still see extremely old models of bicycles though, and no real distinction of male or female models: students especially get the cheapest, no matter it is a pink 12 years old girly bike.. If it got 2 wheels more or less round, and something to steer, then it’s a good deal! Breaks and gears, optionals.. seat, better having it, but you can do without! Very often you see 2 people on the bike, usually the girlfriend sitting in the back, sideways (like a girl, especially if with skirt should sit!), with sleepers or that kind of open shoes hanging from the feet few inches from the ground and never falling down..

Someone told me that China now is very different from 5+ years ago: back then there were almost only bycicles around, together with very very old motorbikes. Not difficult to believe.








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